I have been finding it increasingly difficult to avoid reading about the heartbreaking disappearance of Madeleine McCann. The darling 4 year old girl disappeared from a Portugal resort where she was vacationing with her parents and twin brothers; parents Kate and Gerry McCann are official suspects.
It's been difficult because I'm a news junky, and this story is all over the place. While other people read fiction, do crossword puzzles, or play cards, I read as many different papers a day as I can get my hands on. But while most aspects of media behaviour fascinate me, it's the media's own fascination with this kind of story makes me turn away.
The adage, "If it bleeds, it leads" may sound a little simplistic, but it fits this situation pretty accurately. News outlets can bank on the fact that the public will follow abduction stories, because they elicit fears of what might happen to our own children. And what do we do when we are afraid? We tune in to TV news and buy the morning paper, to become better armed with the information that will help us protect our own loved ones.
The problem is that while we may feel better informed about abductions (and so take steps to ensure that our own children never play unsupervised and never have an unscripted moment), the chances that anyone will ever attempt to abduct our own children is actually very small.
The Abduction of Children by Strangers in Canada: Nature and Scope, a 2003 study published on the federal government's Our Missing Children web site, indicates that statistics from the Missing Children's Registry somewhat misrepresent the true number of abductions by strangers or acquaintances (essentially, abductions by someone who is not a parent). While the registry indicates eighty-three such abductions between 2000 and 2001 in Canada, there were, "... surprisingly quite a few technical errors which contributed to the inflated number of reported stranger abductions." The actual number of stranger/acquaintance abductions during those two years? Five. Sadly, four of those five children were killed by their abductors. Still, no matter how horrible the circumstances, that is an average of two deaths per year across all of Canada as a result of an abduction by a stranger or acquaintance.
We all worry about child abductions, but aside from being vigilant and educating our children, there may be little we can do to protect them from such a tragedy. However, most parents spend much more time fretting about improbable abductions than they do about the thing that really is killing our children on a much more consistent and avoidable basis: traffic accidents.
Safe Kids Canada reports that every year more than seventy Canadian children die in car crashes (emphasis my own):
Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death and serious injury to children of all ages, but those age 4 to 9 are currently the most vulnerable. Canadian data shows that the death rate from car crashes has dropped in all other age groups, but not for children in this age range.
Data also tells us that the majority of Canadian children age 4 to 9 are riding in seat belts, which puts them at risk for serious injuries in a crash. Seat belts are designed to fit adult proportions; children generally don’t reach the right size for a seat belt until at least age 9, often older.
Children who are too small for seat belts run the risk of what doctors call “seat belt syndrome” in the event of a crash. This refers to the range of serious injuries that happen to the internal organs and spine when a seat belt doesn’t fit properly.
The risks of serious injury and death can be significantly reduced by use of a booster seat, a simple safety device that ensures a seat belt fits a child correctly. Unfortunately, our research shows that [only] 28 per cent of Canadian parents of children age 4 to 9 say they are using booster seats for their children. Most parents think that their children are too big or too old for booster seats, but they are not.
What's the matter with us? We allow the media to play on our fears and transfix us with stories about abductions over which we have
absolutely no control, but we simultaneously choose to ignore that over which we have
complete control, namely the interior of our vehicles! Less than a third of parents are using booster seats for children who require them, and our children are needlessly dieing as a result. Surveys have also found that even when appropriate child safety devices are employed, they are often used improperly.
Hopefully that will change. Ontario recently moved to make child car seats and booster seats mandatory; proper use of these devices, "... can reduce the risk of serious injury or death by as much as 71 per cent". Beginning next summer, BC will have similar rules in place.
Our provincial governments are doing the right thing by regulating our behaviour. But parents, given the risk they otherwise face, shouldn't we be taking the time to protect our children by learning how to install child safety seats? Shouldn't we also make sure that our children never travel unless they're seated in appropriate devices that have properly installed?
Next time you start to watch, read, or listen to an update about Madeleine McCann, put down the paper, or turn off the radio or TV. Don't be the parent who survives an accident, only to live with the guilt of knowing that they didn't help their child survive. Instead, take control of your own child's safety; go buy your kid a car seat or a booster seat, or have a look at the one they already use. Is it tethered at the back? Is it belted in so tight that it's hard to move side-to-side? If you're uncertain or need some help, call your local fire department. I'm a Seatbelt Nazi... you should consider becoming one too.
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